Day 38: Happy Birthday Big Man #107days

Day 38 was adopted by Big Man’s mum, who wished to share a post celebrating some positives, on his 10th birthday. We love positivity at #107days, in fact it’s underpinned nearly everything we’ve done in this campaign so far, so we are delighted to share this post:

What’s wrong with loving buses? Bus lovers of the world unite and celebrate! From the mum of an ex-bus lover (now replaced with a football team that play in red) I salute you LB and hope that you get the justice that you deserve.

On this day, ten years ago, I had a baby. This baby grew into a dude, we call him Big Man.

BM has some very special qualities – like LB, buses were a great love of his from an early age, from bus numbers and time tables he learned to read. Sometimes he would combine this love of buses and reading by reading out loud all the adverts on the bus; “Mum, what’s chlamydia?”

In time BM started nursery school. By this point he had gone off buses and onto dinosaurs and computers. Once we found he had ordered a load of dinosaur stuff the internet and only stopped when he didn’t have a credit card to get through the checkout. We sat back and admired his awesome brain. We told everybody how clever he was.

Not everybody saw his awesomeness like we did though. They had concerns.

The first IEP I threw in the bin.

I thought it was a record of parents evening and everybody had one.

In time he progressed from IEP’s to different pieces of paper. Assessments, meetings, pathways and diagnoses. It was a language I had to learn fast.

Then he got some letters after his name: ASD.

They said he could stay in mainstream school, he should be able to take some GCSE’s.

The BM does maths for fun.

If Minecraft hadn’t already been invented he would have invented it by now.

He loves a glorious football team that play in red; football trivia and FIFA has replaced buses and dinosaurs.

If he doesn’t like you, he will just ignore you. If he loves you he will love you forever without caring who is watching or who knows. He can’t tell a lie. That’s a good thing, right? Not everybody seems to think so. Some people think he needs fixing, working on, improving.

He is very moral, always stands up for the underdog. He is amazing, complex, cuddly and funny. His capacity to eat dad’s pancakes and chips from the chippy is unrivalled.

So many people seem to live in fear of an ‘autism epidemic.’ Having a child with such a label is portrayed as disastrous, burdensome, tragic. What is this ‘normal’ people seem to aspire to? Is it being the same as everybody else? Is it judging people to be less worthy because of being different? We’ll pass on that thanks.

IEPs are tragic, children aren’t.

Happy Birthday Big Man.

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One thought on “Day 38: Happy Birthday Big Man #107days

  1. Pingback: Day 53: The golden M (iddle) #107days | #107days

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